More than Chocolate and Cuddles: The Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How of Aftercare

Tue meeting for February 28, 2017 8:00 PM

More than Chocolate and Cuddles: The Who, What, Where, When, Why, and  How of Aftercare with Watercolors and Yellow Moonrise

Aftercare: we've all heard of it and most of us have done it, but most of us never really figure it out. Why do some people need hours of cuddles  after a scene, but others just want to be left alone? How do you figure out what you need from aftercare? What about your partner's needs? When should aftercare take place? How do you negotiate for it? What if your partner can't or doesn't meet your needs? What if your needs change, or you realize you have unexpected needs you didn't negotiate for? Why does aftercare matter?​ In this workshop-style, participatory class, we'll come up with our own definitions of aftercare, learn how to talk about and negotiate for aftercare, discuss who needs aftercare and why we need it, and figure out how to identify our own needs and whether and why our needs might change. ​

Watercolors (she, her, hers) is a giggly, squirmy, and often snarky bottom. She's been in the DC-area scene for about ​5 years and ​has previously led classes for C.L.U.E​ and BR. In her professional life, she's an experienced trainer and presenter, albeit on much less interesting topics. She came up with the idea for an aftercare workshop after having a giant panic attack following a really awesome scene and discovering that her experience was not at all uncommon. When she's not doing kinky things, she enjoys singing, dancing, travel, and cats. 

Y​ellow_moonrise (she, her, hers) is a bottom who enjoys (among other things) sensation, tickling, impact, and once in a while, being beaten so hard she cries and totally hits her mental reset button. She's lived in the DC area for just over 20 years and has been in the local kinky community since October 2012. While she doesn't feel "brand spanking new" anymore, she still enjoys finding more out about what makes her kinky self tick. This aftercare class is one she has co-led previously for both BR and C.L.U.E., and the topic is one that continues to intrigue her. By day, she's a high school English teacher and has taught pre-K though 12th graders, so she's no stranger to education. Outside of kink, yellow_moonrise loves baking, stargazing, exploring new places, seeing Shakespeare plays, spending time near or in large bodies of water, and eating watercolors' pies.

$5 for members and members of reciprocal groups. $10 for non-members. Cash only please!

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If you eat at the munch, there is validated parking at the Holiday Inn. Street side parking is free after 6pm. There are several affordable parking garages within easy walking distance from the venue. We are also a four block walk from the Orange and Silver Lines Metro stops at Ballston-MU Station. There is a shuttle that runs, every seven minutes, between the metro and the hotel. Call (703) 243-9800 for pickup.

Location : Holiday Inn at Ballston 4610 Fairfax Dr, Arlington, VA 22203 
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